Going from Surviving to Thriving After Separation
A guide for men starting from surviving the tough times of separation to flourishing in their new lives.
Does this feel like you?
Do you find yourself struggling with the changes brought by separation?
Are you feeling overwhelmed by the emotional and practical changes that come with separation?
Do you find co-parenting to be a complex and stressful experience?
Are you struggling to navigate the maze of legal and financial issues post-separation?
Have you lost a sense of who you are beyond being a partner or a husband?
Do you feel isolated or detached from your friends and family since your separation?
Are you dealing with feelings of anger, guilt, or sadness that you find hard to manage?
Are you dreading the holiday season and the challenges it might bring in your new family dynamics?
Are you concerned about the impact of separation on your children and your relationship with them?
Do you find yourself longing for your past life and unsure how to move forward?
Are you uncertain about when or how to start new relationships post-separation?
Has your professional life suffered as a result of the emotional toll of your separation?
Do you feel like you lack a support system that understands your unique challenges as a separated father?
If you resonate with any of these questions, you're not alone. Let's have a conversation about how you can navigate these challenges and start building a fulfilling, post-separation life.
What is Separation Coaching?
Separation coaching is your personalised compass in navigating the complexities of separation. It goes beyond just talking – it’s a practical guide and a source of empathetic support.
Our coaching helps by providing tailored strategies to manage the emotional rollercoaster, empowering you with practical tools for the challenges ahead. It’s about finding clarity, building a stronger foundation, and embracing the opportunity for a renewed and fulfilling future.
OUR PROGRAM
Phase 1: Surviving - Building Stability (Weeks 1-4)
WEEK 1
Acknowledging Emotions
- Introduction and setting expectations.
- Group or individual emotional expression exercises.
WEEK 2
Legal Essentials
- Guest speaker: Family lawyer.
- Understanding rights and responsibilities.
- Preparing for custody, support, etc.
WEEK 3
Financial Foundations
- Guest speaker: Financial planner.
- Budgeting and planning for new financial reality.
WEEK 4
Co-Parenting Basics and Communication with Children and Ex-Partner
- Techniques for open, honest conversation.
- Setting boundaries with ex-partner.
Phase 2: Rebuilding - Getting Back On Your Feet (Weeks 5-8)
WEEK 5
Self-Care and Wellness
- Importance of mental and physical health.
- Strategies for stress reduction.
WEEK 6
Building Community Connections
- Importance of friends and family.
- Joining support groups or community activities.
WEEK 7
Career and Skill Development
- Career guidance and personal growth.
- Guest speaker: Career coach.
WEEK 8
Effective Communication Skills and Co-parenting Strategies
- Effective co-parenting techniques.
- Dealing with conflicts.
Phase 3: Thriving - Embracing the Future (Weeks 9-12)
WEEK 9
Dating and New Beginnings
- Navigating the dating scene.
- Introducing new partners to children.
WEEK 10
Planning for your Financial Future
- Long-term financial goals.
- Investments, retirement, college funds for children.
WEEK 11
Finalizing Parenting Plan
- Finalizing a detailed, long-term parenting plan.
- Guest speaker: Mediator or therapist.
WEEK 12
Life Beyond Separation
- Reflecting on growth and progress.
- Establishing future personal and professional paths.
- Celebration and commitment to continued growth.
This program aims to provide comprehensive support for newly separated men, giving them tools and strategies to navigate the complex challenges of separation and build a fulfilling future.
Coach
Peter Dijkema
Peter is a certified ICF coach who has a holistic yet no-nonsense approach. He listens for what you say but also what isn’t said. This is often as important to get to the core of your challenges or why you haven’t been able to achieve your goals. If you get coached by Peter you can expect a very empathetic but direct approach. He is very curious and will challenge you when you are telling yourself stories that stop you from achieving your goals.
Above all, through years of experience across different countries and cultures, Peter has a deep understanding of what is holding his clients back. He will hold space for the challenges you face and will help you reach for all the resources that you have in you but didn’t know how to get to. He will help you get clarity around your purpose, values, and goals and will help you turn your goals into reality.
Peter welcomes clients from all cultural backgrounds, sexes, sexual preferences, and religions.